The Biggest Myth About Addiction Exposed

Do you remember coming home from school in 4th grade and telling your parents you needed a particular brand-new pair of $130 shoes? “Why do you need that?” your Mom responded. “Because,” you said, “everyone is wearing them.”

And that’s when she hit you with the question that somebody’s great-great-great-grandmother invented. “Well, if everyone jumps off a bridge are you going to jump too?”

True or true? At some point in your life, somebody has asked you that question.

But do we ever stop to think about the wisdom behind that question?

The point is that just because everyone does or says something doesn’t mean it’s right.

So, what in the world does that have to do with how to help a recovering addict?

Everything!

What you are about to read could be the single, most important piece of understanding that will help you to help the person you love recover from their addiction.

So, what are we talking about?

Well,...

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How To Help An Addict In Recovery

WOOT WOOT! A loved one who is an addict has entered a treatment program and is officially in recovery. Now what? What do you say? What do you not say? Are the right words that important? What about family functions? Can champagne still be served at celebrations? What about inviting them over for the big game? Is it okay to have a beer in their presence? What about that leftover pain medication in the bathroom closet? Life with a recovering addict may seem filled with all sorts of tricky navigation. Here are some helpful suggestions.

Words DO Matter: Yes, there are all the right things that you should say. But there are also some things that you shouldn't say.

Do say things that are:

  • Encouraging. Sharing a recovery success story can inspire a recovering addict.
  • Comfort. Knowing that someone is willing to listen is just the type of emotional support someone in recovery needs.
  • Funny. Humor goes a long way toward healing, comforting, encouraging and distracting anyone, including...
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Three Ways You Can Help a Recovering Addict

Addicts, even recovering addicts, have harder demons to face than most people do. Recovery can be a lifelong battle for some, and it's one that many people fight (and many lose) alone.

Having a recovering addict in the family can be one of the most trying experiences this life has to offer, but those with the right tools can help their loved one overcome any seemingly insurmountable obstacle. Here are three things you can do to help save the life of a loved one afflicted by drug addiction:

1.  Be Attentive

Learn to recognize the signs of someone in recovery falling back into addiction. Be aware of the changes in behavior and mood that you might recognize from their past as an addict. Be mindful of any major changes or setbacks in their lives, such as the loss of a job or the end of a relationship. Even the stress of a positive change, such as moving into a new home, can set someone on the course to relapse. The most shocking drug-related deaths are ones of people who were...

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An Honest Addict: How Addiction is Ruining My Family

"I'm only hurting myself," a constant refrain of addicts, contains a huge lie. A more truthful statement would be, "Not only am I hurting myself, but I'm also ruining my family. I'm inflicting harm on my children, and there's a good chance my spouse will leave me."

The truth might sound like this: "I am causing my parents more pain than they have ever experienced. They cannot count on me. I break their hearts. They spend a lot of energy and money getting me out of trouble. They're worried about my future more than I am. It's causing stress on their marriage and causing harm to my brothers and sisters."

Deep down the addict is aware the addiction is ruining his or her family, but users are excellent at self-delusion.

An Honest Addict

If you are addicted to drugs, alcohol, gambling, pornography, or anything else, here is what should replace the lie of "I'm not hurting anyone":

"My addiction is ruining my family. My family cannot count on me to do what I say I'm going to do. My word...

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Showing Empathy to an Addict

We say empathy is a bridge, a bridge that can connect us at some of our greatest moments of hurt and disappointments.

It’s certainly been useful in my life in relating to people.

Through the course of my life and in helping those bound with drugs and alcohol I’ve had to cross the bridge of empathy many times.

It’s been the reoccurring theme that has allowed me to step right into lives of those that have made the biggest mess of their circumstances.

It’s been the theme that has allowed me to be able to look at someone over and over and say with a full heart and much compassion “I Understand.”

In saying that “I Understand,” it’s not even that I have experienced every failure or every struggle of those I have helped. It’s that I only can say I understand what it means to fail, know what it's like to hurt, and our pain may be different, it's still suffering, and I am here.

The reality here is that our empathy is a precious gift...

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Enabling Addiction or Enabling Recovery

Enabling

Enabling a drug addict means you’re doing things that help an addicted individual continue addictive behaviors.

This is a nice logical, tidy definition, stated in such a way that no logical, right-minded individual would ever enable an addicted friend or loved one.

Before we get to parent-shaming, friend-shaming, sibling-shaming, or any other type of shaming and unfair judgment toward others, however, it’s important to note that dealing with an addict, especially a family member or close friend, involves a lot of emotion–love, fear, guilt, more guilt, and even more guilt–and not a lot of logic.

After all, it’s only natural to “help” someone you love by giving them money for food or providing them a place to sleep or not reporting their behavior to authorities. Quite often the enabler convinces himself that he is helping.

The Dangers of Enabling

Enabling prolongs the addiction and prevents the addict...

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6 Suggestions for How to Deal with a Drug Addict in Your Family

6 Suggestions for How to Deal with a Drug Addict in Your Family

The damaging effects of drug addiction go beyond just the addict. Addiction comes with an emotional, psychological, and financial cost to those close to the addict as well. There are things, however, loved ones can do to protect themselves and help the addict regain control of his or her life.

Practical Steps on How to Deal with a Drug Addict

 

Educate yourself Treatment options vary depending on the drug being abused. Start with reputable websites. Find local resources in your area. The more you understand about the complexities of drug addiction, the more you'll be able to discuss the problem with people who matter. Part of your education should be geared toward finding experts who can help.

 

Find support groups. There's more to overcoming an addiction than visiting a doctor and having him or her fix the problem. It requires short-term and long-term support. Support groups consist of others struggling...

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Addiction Affects All of Us: How to Help a Recovering Addict

Addiction Affects All of Us: How to Help a Recovering Addict

Fear. Anger. Guilt. Uncertainty. Shame. Isolation. Helplessness.

Family members grapple with similar feelings to those addicts themselves struggle with. Drugs barricade the connection between addict and loved one, fend off attempts to help, and instill toxicity. Recovering from addiction exemplifies a time when family could hardly be more important, or difficult. Figuring out How to Help a Recovering Addict is often disparaging, but remember: you are not alone.

Drug addictions among family members put their empathy to the test. Without personally experiencing the cravings, loved ones see only the horribly detrimental consequences. Understandably, they resent the substance at the root of their pain as they watch drugs coerce someone they hold dear into making harmful choices. Maintaining love for an addict, without accepting the drug or the ways that substance abuse can encourage an addict...

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8 Benefits of a Long Term Drug Rehab Program

The benefits of long term drug rehab program are many, beginning with how we identify those who participate. We do not call them clients or residents.

We refer to them as students, because they learning a new way of living. We believe that through proper training the learned behavior of Drug & Alcohol addiction can be broken and a new way of life can be learned. 

At Teen Challenge students are given the following opportunities as benefits when they enter our program:

1.They are able to separate themselves from the environment and relationships that have contributed to their life-controlling problems

2. They come to a controlled environment which helps them to avoid the substances and behaviors that have contributed to their self-destruction.

3. They enter into a loving and supportive Christian community.

4. They are mentored by others who have walked the same path to freedom and understand the process they are going through as they grow.

5. They are positioned to...

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Finding the Right Anchor

When your loved one is battling addiction, you feel every up, you feel every down, you feel the highs, the lows, you celebrate every victory, and you mourn every defeat.

The reality is you get left feeling tossed about not really certain when the next wave is going to come and where it’s going to leave you.

It's important as you walk through this storm that you find a safe place to anchor to. Otherwise your well-meaning attempts to help and love for your family member can pull you out into vast storm of this addiction.

I did a little research on selecting the right anchor for a boat. When choosing an anchor the ship’s owner is concerned with the holding power of an anchor. The right anchor doesn’t have to be that big relative to the size of boat it’s trying to secure.

“The holding power of modern anchors is remarkable, varying between 10 and 200 times the anchor’s weight. This means that some anchors that weigh only 5 lb. can hold in excess...

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