How to Have Peace when Addicts Continue Using
Consider how much easier it would be to love an addict through their addiction without ever losing peace again.
That sounds like a bold statement, but it is actually very possible.
We sometimes think peace is based upon external circumstances. But really, peace is based on what’s happening inside of us.
Let’s look at a promise God gives us regarding peace. In Isaiah 26:3 (NLT), the Bible tells us that God “will keep in perfect peace all who trust in [Him], all whose thoughts are fixed on [Him]!
That’s a promise that keeping our thoughts fixed on Christ will give us peace through hard times. When addicts we love tell us they’ll quit but use drugs again, we can still have peace. When they use our household money to buy drugs instead of groceries, we can still have peace. When addicts accuse us of “making them” use, we can still have peace.
And here are 5 ways we have that peace based upon the promises of God’s word.
1. Think More about Christ than the Problem
Our natural tendency we dealing with a problem is to focus on it. We think about it and talk about. Then, after, we think about it again. And talk about it again.
We do need to get things out of our system. So we need to talk about our problems. But we exasperate them by overdoing this.
The key is to focus on Christ. Think about His ability to change the human heart. Think about the grace He has shown us in our mistakes as encouragement to have grace for other people through theirs.
Thinking about Jesus more than the problem will make Him seem bigger in our hearts while making the problem seem smaller.
2. Think More about Christ than the Past
Another tendency we have when dealing with addicts we love is thinking about the past. We remember the times they lied, the times they stole from us, and many of the other painful experiences.
If we can shift our focus to think on Christ more than on the things that have happened, we will begin to experience a new sense of peace in our hearts.
3. Think More about Christ than the Future
The only thing scarier to think about than the past hurtful things we’ve gone through with someone addicted to drugs or alcohol is the future, potential hurts we may have to endure if things don’t change.
Worrying about what’s next can weigh us down with fear, anxiety, and even depression.
It’s vital that we shift our eyes away from problems that have yet to occur and onto Christ who has already promised us His powerful peace.
Now, for the last 2 of the 5 ways we can have peace in spite of the circumstances surrounding the addictions we’re dealing with, we will look at yet another promise in God’s word about peace. Philippians 4:6-7 (NLT), the Bible tells us not to “worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand.”
From this promise, we see too more important points to consider.
4. Talk with God about It
If you recall earlier, we said that it is important to get things off our chests. We should not talk about our problems excessively, but we should not hold them in and bottle them up either.
The best person to talk with about the struggles we are dealing with while loving an addict through addiction is the person who can actually help – Jesus Christ.
And when we talk with Him, we have the promise that we will…
5. Experience His Great Peace
It is one thing to talk about having peace. But the Bible promises that when we talk with Christ about the struggle we are experiencing while trying to help an addict we love we will experience God’s peace.
To experience is to actually feel something. It is to have something happen to you. When you experience God’s peace, that literally means that God’s peace happens to you. It is an action. A verb. God essentially does something to you that causes you to feel and sense His overwhelming peace in spite of the storm.
Overall, peace is possible. By thinking more about Jesus than the problems, the past, or the future, and by talking with Him about our concerns, we can and will experience the perfect peace of God in our hearts.